Is It the Right Time to Propose After 5 Months of Dating?
No, you are in the early stages. Take a deep breath and bust a nut.
When Should You Propose?
Why are you asking strangers? I don't know you or her. You are the best person to answer that question. If both of you are adults, then you can ask.
Learning from My Own Experience
This reminds me of my first committed relationship during graduation in Bangalore. We were classmates/batchmates, and we started dating around the second month of our first year. At that time, I was a typical idiot who had a problem with saying those magical words, 'proposal.'
The First Proposal
We were going for a regular date on her Kinetic Honda, and she wanted to ride it that day, with me as her pillion rider. Suddenly, she stopped the bike on the side of the road with a melodramatic gesture. She said, 'Ritesh, it has almost been three months, and we've been in a relationship. You haven't told me love you yet.'
Initially shocked and surprised, I replied, 'The bouquet shop is close, let me do it my way.'
She was adamant like a kid, not ready to pay heed to my apologies. In the rush of the moment, I was completely blank and embarrassed by what I did. I held her hand, took her to the middle of the road, and proposed in a film-like way. The reaction of the traffic jamming people was a mix of yelling and hurling, while a few spectators were like, 'How romantic.'
She had a priceless smile on her face, and I was glad she loved the moment. We both laughed our lungs out later while scooping our favorite ice cream at THE CORNER HOUSE, a famous ice cream chain in Bangalore.
Proposing at the Right Time
It can be. I made my first proposal after 4 months. It was a statement of intent, of where I hoped the relationship would lead. My partner said to wait, and I did. Over the next three years, we progressively blended our lives to the point where we could not imagine being apart ever again.
A More M Mature Proposal
Two and a half years later, the next time I proposed, it was a series of discussions about what we expected from marriage. What we thought was fair, and what we expected to bring to our marriage. This eventually culminated in the joy of being married and the next 50 very happy years.
Understanding the Concept of Proposal
To propose doesn't mean a grandiose 'Will you marry me.' That is the BS part. But to discuss the IDEA of being married and to think about it is not. It's about readiness, intentions, and mutual understanding.
Final Thoughts
Take your time and consider the readiness of both yourself and your partner. Love and respect will guide you in the right direction. Remember, a proposal is a significant milestone, and the timing is everything.