Experiencing Love with an IAS/IPS Officer: A Story of Growth and Learning

Now, the latest trends in dating involve a mix of personal ambitions and traditional values. Just recently, I have been learning about the journey of my boyfriend as he prepares for the Indian Administrative Service (IAS) and Indian Police Service (IPS) exams. This decision to forego dowry as a criterion for marriage has become a trend, reflecting a progressive mindset.

Meeting the Aspiring Civil Servant

I have been dating someone who is envisioning a future as an IAS or IPS officer. It’s an extraordinary experience to be with someone who continuously broadens your horizons. He gave his first attempt at the Civil Services Examination last year, clearing the preliminary stage while working for a public sector undertaking (PSU). Despite not clearing the main stage due to time constraints, he made the bold decision to leave his job and prepare full-time for the exams. This commitment and dedication are truly inspiring.

Long Distance, Deep Connection

We are in a long-distance relationship, knowing each other for the past four years. Our meetings are infrequent—once every four to six months—but when we do meet, the majority of our conversations revolve around his strategies and plans. This relationship has grown from sketches to a well-defined canvas through the years. We regularly engage in discussions about his preparation plans and share our insights and experiences. He started his journey towards the IAS preparation a few years ago, a process that has been both challenging and rewarding for both of us.

Growth Through Partnership

Beyond the typical routine of a relationship, I have grown significantly from our encounter. I was previously engrossed in literature from various countries, neglecting the broader context of my own country. My horizons have expanded, driven by his curiosity and determination to explore newer topics. This journey has not been solely about his progress; it has also been a pathway for me to delve deeper into my own culture and history. We align our goals and objectives, creating a synergistic force that strengthens our relationship. We learn from each other, sharing knowledge and insights, which enriches our personal and professional lives.

Communication as the Key to Success

One of the crucial elements that has kept our relationship vibrant and intact is communication. We are open and honest with each other, having discussions and resolving any conflicts immediately. Our communication is not limited to daily chats; sometimes, we sync our laptops and stream movies together, creating shared moments that bridge the distance. The power of words and understanding is what has kept us together, making our relationship a harmonious blend of support and growth.

Conclusion

While the road ahead is filled with challenges, the decision to share my life with someone who is preparing for the IAS and IPS is one of the best choices I have made. His ambition and dedication have not only enriched me personally but have also created a strong bond that withstands the test of distance and time. So, to all those who aspire to make a meaningful impact and learn new things every day, know that love and growth can coexist beautifully.

And, yes, UPSC, while my rival, can’t bring me down because I have found a partner who is willing to carve out a path full of challenges and victories together.

Fun Fact

We met on Tinder, an unexpected outcome of our digital age. This unique meeting spot only adds to the charm of our journey together.